For many years , an Australian nurse has given hospice care to dying patients during the final stages of their lives.
Over the 12 weeks, Bonnie Ware says she witnessed patients gaining phenomenal clarity as death approached.
Patients were asked if they would do things differently or if they had regrets.Five commonalities continually surfaced:
3. “ I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.” Patients became ill from anger they had from unexpressed feelings. Many had suppressed these emotions in order to keep peace with others. This resulted in illnesses related to bitterness and resentment.
4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.” Many patients regretted losing touch with good friends, who they were unable to track down and contact in their final days.Everyone misses friends when they are dying.
5. “I wish that I had let myself be happier.” Many failed to realize that being happy was their choice.They chose to remain stuck in old patterns and habits.